Real Girls Make Their Own Rules

By: Cheyenne – Special Contributor


What is it like to be a girl in my world?


These days, being a “girl” is a stereotype. Its like being a jock, or a nerd, or a rocker. People are defining what it means to be a girl so that there is a standard of what a girl should and shouldn’t be. But is there really a “right” or “wrong” answer to whether you are truly a girl or not?


These “rules” that people have made up have come from all over the place. A girl has to look a certain way, act a certain way, hang out with a certain crowd, etc.

A “GIRL” dolls herself up by putting on pounds of makeup and doing their hair in styles that take hours to perfect.

A “GIRL” wears super revealing or fancy outfits in order to impress people.

A “GIRL” only hangs out with the popular people and completely ignores everyone else.

A “GIRL” is able to get every boy to fall for her at the snap of her fingers.

A “GIRL” gets everything she wants whenever she wants it.

But isn’t it ironic that these stereotypical girls end up in the worst situations?


They’re always complete airheads, can never do any work for themselves and are mentally and physically weak. “But I don’t wanna be that puppet that you’re playing on a string,” Daya says in her song Sit Still Look Pretty.


She doesn’t want to have all these stereotypes of what a girl should be control her. You can catch these little hints of being a girl everywhere. Boys talking about the girls they want to date, songs talking about how girls act and should be treated, even Disney movies having the prince always come to the rescue while the princess is usually helpless. Notice all these things now?

Being a real girl is being whoever you really are, no matter what the “rules” say about it.
Being a real girl is being someone is not afraid to let their inner beauty shine although no one else can notice quite yet.

Watch what you feed your spirit and how it affects the way you go about things in your life, because it makes a larger impact than you think.


Cheyenne is 13 years old. She enjoys reading, sleeping, and playing video games. She is an honor student and a member of various ministries at her church.


[Editor’s Note]

As we near the close of Women’s History Month 2017, we have curated  12 pieces from some pretty amazing guest bloggers. Who are they? They are all #EmpoweredYoungLadies who were asked the following questions:

What is important to you?

What is it like to be a girl in your world?

What is something you think Adults need to know about your world?

SIL Blog would like to extend a tremendous “THANK YOU” to these young ladies and their parents, in Cheyenne’s case, her father, for sharing their message and lending their voices in celebration of  Women’s History Month 2017. 

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